The beginning of a divorce is often stressful and traumatic for a family. There is fear of the unknown- parents' wondering if there will be enough money for two households. There is often fear and worry: will the children be manipulated, victimized by the other parent during the divorce proceeding, will the children’s needs not come first? Spouses will blame themselves, and each other, for not doing what was needed to keep the marriage together. Where previously a family functioned as a unit, they now must cope with one of the spouses having less access to the children. Before the divorce, there was barely enough money to meet the financial needs of the family. Now, the family must maintain two households on the same salaries. Before, the parties lived in a monogamous relationship. Now, both or one of the spouses is dating or in a relationship with someone else. Before, they both lived in the same house. Now, one of the spouses must move out. There are concerns about how the house; business and financial accounts will be divided.

There are solutions under the law but often that is not enough because emotional components of the divorce must be addressed and resolved.

Alan R. Silverman has the experience and training to get you through these stressful times. In the 14 years he has been practicing law he has developed a strong background in high-conflict family law litigation.

Mr. Silverman’s strength is in negotiation, mediation and settlement. He believes that it is crucial in family law cases for the clients to confront issues that have brought them to this point in their relationship. As an attorney in a litigated case, as a mediator or as an attorney in a collaborative case, he will work diligently with opposing counsel to reach agreements and attempt to resolve your case efficiently, quickly and permanently.

His extensive background as a psychologist and family therapist will help you through these difficult times. His experience in working with and understanding family dynamics will give you a greater understanding as to the dissolution process and how to develop an efficient strategy in defining and reaching your goals.